I have this friend at work. She is a great girl, and I love her dearly. We have a lot of fun together. We talk about boys and we flirt with them and tease them. All in good fun--as we are both married. But she has something I don't. Confidence. She knows she is hot and she is confident in that. She is confident that if, given the chance, any guy we work with would f*ck her. She knows that. She isn't confident in a cocky or arrogant way...just sure of herself. I soooo admire that.
And I am totally on the other end of the spectrum. While I flirt and tease and joke with guys...I wouldn't say that I am hot. No way Jose. I don't think I am pretty....let alone hot! And I don't believe that if given the chance any of those same guys would sleep with me.
How do I change that? How do I gain that confidence? That love of self? I mean....I am not skinny or anything, but I am nice and funny and fun-loving.....on paper that all sounds hot. But in real life, I feel that couldn't be further from the truth. Hot?? Nah....not me!
I just want to know how one gets to that place in their life that they love who they are. I mean, I am sure that these people have things about themselves that they would like to change. But they are comfortable with who they are NOW. And they love themselves. How?? How do they get there?!?! Ugh...I wish I knew that secret.
Adriene, I know you will be reading this and I want to say that I love you. You are a great friend and I really have a lot of fun with you. I admire you for who you are and the confidence you have in yourself and in who YOU are. I look forward to our friendship growing and getting closer. :) Love you, girl.
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5 comments:
Caryn-
First I want to reccomend a book. It is called Radical Acceptance. It is based on Buddhist philosophy, but the message is appropriate for any religeon.
You are who you are. You need to come to terms with that before you can do anything else. You are hot. You just need to release your inner hotness. ;0) We you go out, get all prettied up and tell yourself that you are hot. And beleive it. Shake your bootie like i looks like J. Lo's, and beleive it. Sometimes its not enough that our husbands tell us we are beautiful and f*ckable. Sometimes its nice to have someone else tell us. Great ego boost. Basically you need to tell that brain of yours that you are hot and when it starts to say no..tell it to shut up!!. lol.
Love Ya.
Girl! You are SO HOT! You are awesome. Thank you for the kind words. But let I will let you in on a secret, I am not as confident as you think. I am alot of talk. I admire for your ability to talk and have fun with people, I sometimes have a hard time talking with new people as easliy you do. I think you are amazing, beautiful, funny, smart, and HOT! LYLAS, your BFF, Adriene
there is no secret. confidence is just a choice you make. everything is a choice. if you want to love yourself, then start loving yourself... and dont let anyone interfere.
Oh friend,
I know how you feel.
I used to be the "hot chick". But ya know what? I never felt that way. My hubby has made comments (more & more frequently unfortunately) about what a HOttie I used to be. Really bums me out, because I will never be her again. That was before having 3 kids and gaining close to 100 lbs. Yeah, I've lost like 40 of that so far, but I've still got a hella lot of weight to lose. :(
(((hugs)))
I'm sorry that you don't see how wonderful you truly are.
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